Originally Posted by John Nevro User

I am going to be 60 and have been in what is called "Intractable Pain" for most of my life. You just being there means so much. If he knows you will never leave, you are helping out so much more than you could possibly know.

If you need counseling, get it, but be mindful, as many of these people have no idea of what they speak of. Sounds corny, but after 3 near death experiences, I've laid it all out to Christ, and pray as my stream of consciousness. A lot of this involves listening, and then learning when I am stressing my wife out too much and need to carry that cross by myself. Not much to offer, but continue to continue, day by day, hour by hour, sometimes, moment by moment. In the long run, the only thing we can offer anyone in this world is love, that is the part we offer. The greatest achievement of mankind, if there turned out to be nothing. I do believe there much goodness that await us in truth though.

My being a Christian alone has not eased my pain, but I can understand it, and not react to it, which is half the battle. I let it ride over me like waves. Nothing works all the time, not even most of the time, the reality of this situation.