"The only way to face the idea of getting up in the morning to shower
and get out the door on time is to give myself the option of leaving work early to come home.
I kind of bribe myself with these kinds of promises to come home early and
then do not follow through if I do not need to."

I'm sorry that you can't sleep all day today and have to go back to work
I'm glad that you have found a way to get yourself out the door in the morning tho... whatever works

"Hubby would like me to shower more. F him. He's comes from a culture overseas where they shower a lot.
Also, he did not grow up understanding mental illness and has
only somewhat figured it out after being with me for decades now
and DESPITE his own diagnosable issues."

I can relate to both of those issues...
I'm sorry that your husband can't be more sympathetic and supportive