You know, you might need to have a talk with your husband about him helping more.

If you have a monitor with a camera you can see if she is sleeping soundly through the night and if moving to a small bed would effect anything? Or maybe drop the crib railing and give her a stool to step down?

Usually having access to a potty through the night or in the morning is needed if she isn't going to have a diaper or pull up, so you might consider sticking with one just through the night then.

I was relying on my "good" arm before my surgery and now I can't manage much with either arm. I know your legs are maybe worse than your upper body? But you do need to protect it as well, so if you're not ready yet to make changes, just try to be proactive when you do get sore.

If you're renting perhaps you could look into moving to a single story?

You maybe already on top of all these things but I suspect you just might have a tendency to suck it up too often when things could be made easier for you...