Originally Posted by eva5667faliure

Dear sister
As a recovering alcoholic
Since 1992
Been in the rooms since 1990
I took myself in
Ya know one of those functional alcoholics
It was in 1992 when I began the work
It is not the you who did this
As many who are sober have sobering living
It is just the first step
Not picking up a drink
It is after not picking up when all the hard work comes into action
Now this just my experience
I have and many do not talk about what is called 13 stepping
That’s when persons come into a program and take advantage of a person who is at their lowest point in life and are involved in ways that are not suggested but happens
Infidelity a biggie
But most importantly it is the character defects that we then begin to change
I was pursued for 3 years that be Corissa’s father
He was supposed to have been divorced
Needless
Corissa understands recovery
She is a product of a recovering addict who doesn’t drink or drug
Not breaking aninimity
But in the end of this message
There are many addictive actions he still practices
Gambling sexing I was blind as Corissa was ill at three and a half months I had to concentrate on her
I was celebate for several years broke it with her father the only good thing about him was her
A horrible person in my view
But it is my experience with him a child we have together
Was not after his house business
Did it alone
Told myself
Been there did it done it with three babies to a man I was married yo who said to me after our third pregnancy
Are you breast feeding this one too
Selfish child my ex husband was
A big baby
Blessed to have divorced him at 24 with three babies
There is a point to my experience
OMG the characters that come out of an alcoholic and an addict
It’s just like anywhere else
You want to gravitate towards the truth and what others are doing in their lives living a sober life
Crap
I have been through things no child should ever have to go through thinking I was protecting my sister
And it took her to say to my mom who did not want us just a little plus
That I happened to her also
The defects that people harbor
THAT THE POINT
all the men in my life including in the rooms have many character
defects
He is defected
do you get it
It’s not you
He is lying to everybody around him
But can’t pull the wool over your eyes
You have his number
And when in the rooms
It is suggested
“If in a relationship marriage blah blah blah
And new in a 12 step program
And if not in a relationship not to get into one
Till a year of sobriety”
This a good recommendation
Know this PamelaJune
Not many have the nerve to talk about 13 stepping
Used as a pick up joint for many
And that’s the truth
They came after me like white on rice
Mind you and remember
All 12 step programs base on the original two brave men
God thank you
I am a greatful alcoholic addict
I have found a new way of living
And love who I am
CHARACTER DEFECTS
this is what one is left with
Two men and a Bible
He cannot use his drinking problems on you in anyway
And you cannot fix him
Just be there
And you were
Only to be squashed while becoming ill
It is not your fault he is who he is
Yuck
Shame on him for dumping in a sick woman who gave her everything
It isn’t easy to hear but it is the truth
Life is not always peachy
And you be surprised when you find out about the person who you lived with in your time together could and did what he has been doing for some time now
It is only you who will have to get to that place and only you can make that call if you want him back
Never to judge you either way
I myself give women credit having the grace of allowing them to stay with them
I myself had more than one experience after another
When I think and look back I would have given two only two men a chance today
To think how far they went to take me on with three children at the time
And two when I had my fourth child 17 from my eldest
The point to it all is
I found it isn’t just in the program that we look at our defects and work on them
It is only after some time did I understand what it meant when I heard
I wish the rest of the world has what AA MEMBERS have
I speak of those who really work the program
For me it runs parallel with the 10 commandants

My intent is to empower you
Uplift you
Hold you
Let you know your not alone
You matter
You are everything you worked hard to get to where you are
You are the woman who has been put through something
A selfish person hung on you
As you were and will always be the stronger one
You are not alone
I promise
You are not alone
But can empower others
And you kick butt with your doctors
And make them listen
Here for you
I’m sorry if I stepped out of line in anyway
Forgive me
Love
Me