I hope things calm down soon for you and that your daughter is able to find some good help and answers too.

PS-
I feel dumb - who is bookworm that had surgery last week??
[listen! you people fell down on the job, i want you to know. let poor bookworm have her surgery last weds. without a single goddamned one of you wishing her well. i don't know what to think about that. but i sure as hell feel like pointing it out.]