Yosemitelady,

Welcome to NeuroTalk. Sorry to hear about your son.

There is no normal for your son. Every TBI is different. But, his behavior is not unusual or even unexpected.

Drinking is not advised for somebody with his neurological condition.

Even if he will not consider meds, maybe he will consider vitamin supplements. The Vitamin sticky at the top has a good regimen. The injured brain needs extra nutrition for the long term. The regimen will not have any side effects other than improving his well being.

If he is concerned about maintaining contact with his kids and there is a custody agreement, the agreement may be able to include a no drinking clause. Just a thought. It could also backfire so be careful.

btw, I have a yosemite/tahoe/salmon-river/bitter-root daughter. I know what it means to be away from medical care.