Friend

I'm wondering if your brother-in-law is depressed also is part of the
problem. Not that its your problem. And he doesn't know what
to say to you or do. And honestly to do a meeting with your
case manager and others, he will have to talk. Or your niece will
have too. So this will be something that will change.

I have a suggestion, that might not work, or it might. But maybe
you could ask your case manager and anyone else coming to
the meeting on your be-hath to either come half an hour early to
talk about the things you want to have discussed at the meeting.
Or meet at a time different, then have this meeting.

Make sure the team knows what the points you want discussed are.
And how you want them handled. IF you are comfortable with one
or more of them handling the meeting for you then, let them do
as much of it as they can.

Also see if they can work to get your brother-in-law and niece to
tell them why they wont talk to you. Maybe they can.

Donna