That's one of the hardest things--watching someone you care about needing help and feeling as if you should be doing more than you're doing--when you're probably already doing far more than you're really up to and you know you're going to pay a heavy price for the sleepless nights, the times when you've had to race around and do things urgently.

Sometimes you have to detach yourself from the situation and look on as if you're just an observer, just passing by. It's very hard to do when things are very bad for someone you care about, but I've found it helps to get some perspective--just so as to be able to carry on instead of falling apart completely.