Kay it sounds like your father is having a rough time. Where the heck is wife in all this. I recall she is a real, shall we say, female dog? Sorry if I over step my bounds, but this makes it so difficult for you to ensure he is getting care. I would almost want to do a well fare check. But I tend to over react perhaps.

I also experience urinary retention but not enough to catch daily. I retain urine after I empty my bladder so I can manually message bladder area and release additional urine most times. Yep TMI...

Brother should have at least ask how you are doing after all the sh@t you have been through. I have a brother like this. His head is too far up his own behind to think about others often. Yes, he has it tough but still.

I am at my fathers. Just came back from friends who have a pool so the grandkids had a ball. My friend just got her PhD and teaches psyc nursing. We both used to work on psyc intensive care together. She is a real nurse that gives heart and soul to her job. That is a different chapter in my life.