Hi Coldlanta
I also have been going through the same thing.
Now 9 weeks out and still some discomfort. But it is slowly improving. As long as you don’t have an infection and you are keeping the area clean (rinse with salt water a couple of times a day) you will heal. For some of us, healing just takes longer.
The crazy thing for me is that 2 weeks before this extraction (#4 on top), I had another extraction on bottom because a bridge I had 10 years ago had failed and had decay on one of the anchor teeth. So I had that tooth extracted.
That extraction was easy breezy. No pain at all !!!!
And healed completely within a week. We all expected the same when I had to extract the top tooth. But no such luck.
I had a dry socket and it was hell for 6 weeks.
I’ve been drinking a lot of water - I really believe staying hydrated helps. And I eat mostly soft food (no smoking please)
I still have throbbing in that area when I walk around, but it is improving slowly.
Stay positive, meditate, listen to classical music & you’ll get through it.