Blue,

You have bent over backwards trying to get this woman help, and trying to make sure that she is safe. You are a good and caring person

But you can do no more unless she makes new declarations of s/s ideations to you...

You don't know whether or not it is your sick neighbor's decision to go to her PCP for evaluation or not. She may trust him best to tell her what to do. While it would be best for her to be evaluated by a psychiatrist (if she has one) or in the ER, it is HER life, and HER decision, about what she is going to about her situation, and you have to respect that. Her PCP may tell her to go to the ER, and she may go. If she is no longer having s/s thoughts, they may not recommend inpatient treatment, and outpatient treatment instead, and you will have to accept that, too.

I know that this whole situation is very upsetting, and REALLY worries you. Because it's also so triggering, you have to try your best to to let go for your own wellbeing, knowing you have tried your best to help her (((HUGS)))