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Originally Posted by mymorgy
thank you so much Donna. I really do have a problem asserting myself and thus create situations that really upset me. My father was very frightening especially when he was drunk or just raging so I think I learned at a a very young age to placate. Over the long run I don't think it works. I still have a few long term friends who don't get me angry. They are very kind people.
fondly
bobby
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Bobby
I don't think there is any problem with you letting your anger out. Hopefully you can start getting more assertive with Stella. Even when you apologized to her. Just remember you need to let it out.
So try a different approach, and if the only thing that works is anger with
Stella, then start letting the anger out. Just make sure she knows its helping you.
I used to write a letter to someone, never send it. And just put it in a drawer or in a file on the computer. Telling them the anger I was feeling sometimes
not even they were the person I was angry at. Just got the anger out for
all things to the one person.
It usually worked.
Donna
