you are right. I couldn't wait to give her presents. I think it bothered me that she hardly ever said thank you. My spending only got out of hand I think three or four months ago. Then I started resenting her asking for things like food and stop working and spend a lot of time slowly eating or drinking.. Then I noticed she would sometimes ask about things which I think she also wanted.
She is only here 4 hours on Monday and four hours on Tuesday. Inside I went ballastic when she asked for some essential oil and told me I could pour a little in one of the empty bottles I bought. I wound up buying one for her. She didn't say thank you but told me it did help her sleep. I freaked when I saw she bought a tiny carton of orange juice for over two dollars. I never would have spent that much money on something so small. She always buys bottled water.
She really does take care of herself and I don't. She puts herself together lovely when she comes and goes with creams etc. It is weird but getting to know her I now think she is beautiful. she comes from Jamaica. She has a great sense of style and she is as fat as I am. She has definitely gotten more bossy and has been taken for granted my good will. Even though I am still angry I do love her.
Sorry about your woman, I hate deceit.