The only thing that prevents BenW from taking the trip is his own anxiety and OCD. He is not a damaged and sensitive person.

He steps in a pothole and shuts his life down for a week or two without any symptoms other than his anxiety.

Somebody pats him on the back or he gets a strong hug and he comes apart.

He refuses to follow his CBT therapist's counsel.

He is looking for people to confirm his anxieties and OCD.

Please don't oblige him. He needs to learn to move forward with his life.