Hi. I usually post on the pn site but sending thoughts and hugs. I'm 28 but my mom is my support system and we have done family therapy which helped with communication. Could you do something like that? A feeling is a feeling and your allowed to have any. Did you tell your mom how it makes you feel?I know it won't take away from your pain but may help the coping issue. I think sometimes family wants us to be well so much that there way of coping with this is to make it seem easier then it is way easier. Kind of like a protection from them to not feel so much fear.I'm sorry and wish I had more to offer. Please hang in there.