Thank you for your very practical yet caring reply. And it is re-assuring to have someone so very much in tune with the reality touch to balance " air heads " like me.It is indeed a flaw in my make up Ol`cs...I have the desire and determination,the belief and the tenacity to follow my notions, but you are right. The work will be tremendous and I love the alternative you have suggested.
But...I won`t give up without at least a try,and it will keep me out of mischief for a while...so how about we compromise? If I draft in my gardener on a regular basis,and even try to involve some youngsters....healthy ones...and folk here would still like to add their suggestions on flowers...if I promise to do all that, will you give up on me?

And if all fails,I will still have a PD patch in my garden where I can sit quietly,and look at all the tagged white flowers...and just enjoy the scent and beauty of the flowers. My tranquil place.

Gosh.Does PD make us stubborn or what? And boy,am I stubborn.But I can`t say I haven`t been warned and I will go into this with your good advice firmly planted ...eek...PLANTED!!!!! [SORRY] in my head and how about I post pictures along the way? And in all of em I will be flat on my back....

So...can I put you down for the Magnolia tree ?

Thanks so much for this. Appreciate your care.
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