Hi Befuddled 2 ...I do not know you very well yet but I do read some of your posts. You seem like such a wonderful caring and lovely person. Your friend who is sick is so lucky to have you in his life. I am sure that he is very grateful for you. I think that you are right. You should take some you time....as much as you need. The more we take care of ourselves the better we are able to help our friends and family members in need...so pamper yourself! You certainly deserve it!!! Take Care Dorrie