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Originally Posted by Brokenfriend
There is a person where I live who has a tremendous ego, he's controling, he's simmering with anger, and he exploded with anger and I tried to get to my room, and he stepped in front of me three times. When I got to my room he said something that caused me to open my door. Then he put his foot in my door and I tried to remove his foot and he said if I hurt it he was going to( I don't remember the threat word) harm me. It's a hud house. I never thought that I'd be bullied at my age. The leadership of the house, a mental health orginization to which we pay rent is not handling the situation well. The person (bullie) is brilliant and always gets the upperhand. BF  |
Hi Brokenfriend,
I happened to notice this thread and hope you won't mind some input from somebody who would be hanging out in the MS forum if it was still active.
I saw that you live in a HUD building and wanted to mention that I live in a HUD building too. In fact I've lived in HUD buildings since 1983--first in one state, then in another.
I'm aware of how things go in HUD buildings. They're under some kind of obligation to provide "community space" for people to gather, watch TV, play cards, do puzzles, have meetings, even reserve space for private parties.
I've seen bad situations happen so many times I think they must be unavoidable. A clique establishes itself, and often there are bullies who may or may not be part of the clique.
The bullies get away with outrageous behavior--shouting abusive language nonstop at another tenant, physically blocking a neighbor from using the laundry room, etc.
Time and time again the management has been approached for help with these situations, and the response is always the same. We are told that the management is there to manage the office and maintain the building. They absolutely will not talk about other tenants to tenants. They will not get involved in any disputes between tenants.
If a tenant can demonstrate that he/she has already tried to settle the problem with the person, an "incident report" can be filed with the office. This has been tried, and the report gets sent to the main office of the management company, and someone probably calls the tenant who filed the complaint and discusses the issue.
I've never heard of anything real ever resulting from those incident reports. Maybe people have actually been thrown out of the building because of an incident report and I didn't know about it though. That is quite possible as nobody ever knows for sure if someone who is leaving is being evicted. They usually don't spread the news around if they're being evicted, of course.
What I'm saying is that there are steps that can be taken to resolve your problem with a bullying neighbor but many people wouldn't want to bother with taking those steps. I think you should try though.
I realize that building managers can't be police and can't be rapping people's knuckles for their bad manners, but we're talking about repeated bullying here. What you describe sounds as if someone has been repeatedly physically trying to block your access to the space you've rented. It's probably grounds for evicting the bully.
Is there legal aid in your area? Often bringing a lawyer into the picture can focus the attention of people who've been ignoring you up till then.