Honestly, and this is just MY opinion, and I'm not an advocate of bannings (especially after how "another place" was run), and I'm also not trying to tell anybody how NT should be run , but frankly, I think anybody who sends that kind of vicious, hateful stuff (and as DiMarie said, isn't willing to say it in an open forum) by PM should be banned- at least for a time period and if it happens the second time, you're outta here.....I suspect that the people who would do this probably want to sound all "sweety sweet" on the forum and want everybody to think that's how they really are when that's definitely not always the case.