Hi, I wanted to say hello. It is now around 8:00 pm in New Jersey. Welcome back and I hope all goes well with your family. It is tough to care for others and be in pain at the same time. I am 43, married with 4 kids. 17, 15, 12 and 4, and yes all with the same hubby! I was diagnosed in 2000 and had a rib resection and scalanectomy the same year. Worked great until recently having some troubles. I used to be on the TOS site all the time until my pain went away in 2002. Unfortunately, it has reared it's nasty head and I'm back. My surgeon told me recently to take it easy and go back to the way I was as far as being careful and watching everything I did. I got very complacent with my actions, and, screwed up my shoulder. Trying REALLY hard to get back in the swing of things. Good Luck! Linda