Lara,
Thank you for all your advice.
She hasn't been told. If they tell her then they have to face it and I guess they can't.
If she were my mother I would have gotten everything organized to make her life easy and simple.
I went for two weeks to see them everyday. First thing in the morning to make sure they made it thru the night, took thier medicine, made lunch and dinner. Picked up medicine, helped shop, tried to get her to bath.
All day no one called or stopped to check on them.
Doctor told son to tell his mother but they are looking for someone else to do it, they even tried to get her surgeon to do it.
The mother does not want me coming up anymore, she says her sons can handle anything she needs. I really adore her and we had a great friendship
and in my heart I really do not want to lose that but even more I do not want anything to happen to her or her husband. They are so adorable.
She has left the stove on, doors unlocked, she will tell me she took medicine
and when I count the pills she didn't.
Thank you again