Dear Befuddled,

I learned from Barb's post and thought that it was beautiful.
If you don't think it applied to what you were explaining, don't worry. It's ok.

Come here and let off steam. But eventually you might find a calmer place inside yourself and will end up having less steam, it that makes sense.

It sounds like right now, the important things to you are to keep pain levels down and to feel like you are in control of your house. That is important. It is also important to know what is important -- not everyone knows these things.
(sorry if I sound dumb. I need to get off the computer soon.)

One suggestion, if you will allow: you don't have to go so far that you get totally physcially and emotionally exhausted. I mean, if it works, go for it. If it is not working for you, then you can back down way before you get to that point.

Doug might start making more and more demands. I don't think he is taking you for granted or using you. I think he is sick and reaching out his own way. You can say no. Or you can disappear back at your place. He will manage.


That's great, Befuddled.
What are your plans for Sunday?

Mari