I'm single and I give both the suffer and the spouse credit. Its a hard situation to be in. Sometimes I gets so anxious little things just bother me so much. I can't imagine living with someone. For the other its hard to know what to say and I often feel if people would just listen rather then speak it would be better. Sometimes there is no right words. I know for me and my mom we worked on ways she can help me.She is amazing though but we did family therapy and I know I suggest therapy a lot but encourage all too. I know in my ed recovery people always say the wrong thing so using my voice and reminding myself that people mean well and just don't understand. Its impossible but trying to say they care. Also for me not stepping into the fire I call it. I know not to get myself into certain situations or battles. Also for me to allow myself to feel. A lot of times my family would say you shouldn't feel that way but a feeling is a feeling and we all have the right to them. No rights or wrong there. Hugs to all.