Mari....I loved your post!!! Sounds weird but I did! Sometimes we really need to vent and I felt as if you were right here at my diningroom table telling me. I love to vent once in a while! It is so important to get rid of anything negative pent up in us. It does not help our health if we keep it all inside of us! I love the fact that we can come into Neurotalk and get things off of our chests! Why carry it around when there are plenty of wonderful people here to hear what you are feeling and to help us carry the load. In my 12 step group I do the same. In a closed meeting I "dump my *h*t!!" They are there for me to listen but they can let it roll off their shoulders much easier. When I do go and dump my*h*t I leave it there! I do not take it back on! So dump your *h*t Mari and feel good about it