I'm so sorry for your friend. I know how hard it is to watch your friend die. I have friends that still suffer from anorexia and its real hard to watch. There is only so much others can do and just telling the suffer your there is the most important. For your friend it sounds like she is at a point where she can't make clear choices from being underfed. I hope things turn around. As for your husband I'm glad he is doing better. How are you doing? I love DD too and have to have my coffee in the morning. It doesn't matter from where just a must. My new place is Panera. Yum!