Thank you for the information. The info does help confirm my suspicions re:my husband's issues. I was hopeful to hear that there could be a happy ending to couples going through this together. I am assuming your happy ending didn't include your current ex-husband. I am hoping for a different fate but it remains to be seen.

However, whenever an opportunity arises to discuss help at this point, he rejects the idea of outside intervention. He explains how he will go through his "piles" to clean up...which he does not do by the way... or rationalizes why things have to be done his way...even if rigid/nonsensical to me.

Any suggestion as to if or how I can move him toward some medical/psych diagnosis/care? I think that at this point, I may need professional help more than he does since I am out of "tricks."

I am almost at the point which I feel that I can do no more for him. The negative impact on my children and me is strong and forceful.

Thanks again for your input and thoughts.