BJ,
I'm glad you were able to stop by and post but I was sure hoping things would be going better for you than what you've written.
I had also hoped that you might have finished the series of treatments. Are you sure that you HAVE to finish the last 3 next week? I don't know anything about ECT so I don't know how it works and what is necessary but it doesn't sound good. Do you know if your symptoms (shaking constantly, poor memory, feeling so tired) are normal or expected?
I think it is a positive that you realize you are grieving. It is not an easy process but it is an important one.
I do admire your continuing strength and willpower. You are right that fighting for your life is hard and I'm so glad you are doing it.
I hope you are getting some much needed rest.