How long are they staying and are they staying with you and your hubby or are they getting a hotel room? It's not easy being the oldest from what I understand. I sure wish you luck in dealing with this visit. I think you're probably right and that they buildup is worse then the visit. Waiting is never easy, be it waiting for them to arrive or waiting for them to leave. It's just never easy. It's too bad things went badly at your last visit. If you need to talk remember we're always here Mari.