Sounds like your drowning in a Sea of Legalities. I'm so sorry for you. All the legal system does is chew you up and spit you out.

I have been throught that a couple times. I was divorced twice and I had no control, the lawyers did. First time I got screwed over so I learned NEXT time if it should happen again just be as vicious and nasty and I benefitted from my experience.

I live a simple life now. I have just what I need and avoid all entanglements that may land me in court someday. That Includes marriage. The MORE you have the harder people try to take it away from you. Simplify, simplify, SIMPLIFY DAMN IT!!! I too have a disability but I don't tell many people IRL. Then they look at you as weak and try to take advantage.

IF I could live by myself on an island somewhere away from civilization and people I'd be SO happy.