Dear Pam,
My therapist asked me to bring hubby to an appointment.
She asked him if he thought that he could be on the team to help me -- not the coach or the manager (he's bossy sometimes), but a team member.

She tried to explain to him how harder it is for a bipolar person to do things that other people can do -- like get out of bed, think through something in their head, get work done...

I'm not sure what he remembers about the visit (I guess I didn't followup real well.) But he does get the general idea that I need help more. And he gives it to me. Sometimes I remind him and tell him I can't explain what is happening in a particular moment but I need him on the team, as he promised.

So the visit ended up working.

Mari