(((Joy))) I can't imagine how difficult it must be for transgenders to admit to their family and friends what they are going through.

And of course it tears at your heart because to you this is just not normal.

It's clear to me that if you truly love your son, you need to be there for him.

The issue of alcoholism, actually, is what bothers me. My best friend is a recovering alcoholic and there were times when I couldn't even see or speak to her because of her actions. I hope your son addresses his alcoholism. That's a miserable disease and in the end could take his life from the ravages of alcohol.

Life is MUCH too short to blame yourself or him or anyone else.

I don't consider myself religious. To me, Christian love isn't any different from the love I have for people/places/things. Christianity should be all about love.

I'm so sorry you are going through this and hope you find it in your heart to be supportive about his decision. AND encourage him to seek help for his alcoholism.