Donna,
Yes, it is hard to figure out what is going on.
So sorry about your co-worker and what you are dealing with.

One of my students is the son of the colleague who died on Thursday. I didn't know this until today because they have different last names.

I think that I will go to his mother's funeral -- depending on where and when it is.

Tomorrow's funeral is for the aunt of a colleague I work closely with. Yeah, I don't like this colleague much, but we are in the same dept and she has been taking care of her aunt for a very long time and the funeral is nearby.... And someone else wants to go with me so I am driving.
Mari