Michael, do you have a Health Care Representative...some one who can speak for you and make decisions about your health care if you are ever unable to speak for yourself? It doesn't have to be a family member..could be a friend you trust or a member of your church. There's no financial responsibility involved...it's like being a "helpful son or daughter."

I think this may relieve some of your fear of being a burden on your family...(burden being your definition, not theirs I'm sure)

Try contacting your senior services or elder care agency in your area. They possibly have volunteers to be health care representative.

Sending you positive thoughts and gentle hugs.