Also, just an aside, I feel these TOS parties are so important for the spouses.

Usually (except the last party) the "men" would all go to the kitchen or backyard and swap stories about how tough it is, as well as mingle with the other ladies and confirm that their spouse's symptoms were common...

Cyn's husband is really good at talking with them, sharing his strength.

After these parties, fiance felt he was not alone, that they understood him, and he said he had an unexpectedly good time! He actually looked forward to the next party.

Where else can a male spouse (or female) get the validation of how difficult it is to love someone with TOS???

So if you can trick or pay your spouse to come, it really is a rewarding experience for them.