I called the case manager... she had stopped by (FIL had not told my hubby) and she was upset at the bedsore. She is pushing for a second shift of help to get her dinner on time. So a bed is being ordered and she asked me to get a gel seat for her for the wheelchair. That will upset my FIL as he does not like her to sit in it but she needs to sit on something softer. The case manager is going to talk to my hubby today about getting him more help as the situation is dire and FIL is not able to do it as much as he protests... She wants the MIL in a home where she can get 24 hour care but knows they will not agree... sad.
But at least the case manager is on my stubborn FIL but he is so nasty and rude... I just hope she can keep my MIL safe.