I agree with all the great posters here! I think that you could make a special time just for her, set aside a window of time (not excessive) once a week to watch a movie, read a book, etc. A limited time that is her time with no interruptions. I would include your significant other when talking with her and show a united front explaining that you all need time together, everyone is special to you. She is at a crucial time in her life when she is clinging and scared. I remember that time in my life. My mom had divorced from my dad and my stepdad did not know what to do with me, a clingy, scared, demanding 10 year old. He set aside an hour of just "Me" time once a week. He was a saint, letting me torture him with disco dancing, reading, walking, etc. But that one hour let me know I was special too. My son is 13 and my husband is not his natural father, but they spend one day of just "Man" time. What homework I can't help with he does, we alternate. It works for us.

I applaud men who are strong enough to take on a family, bravo to you and good luck.