Here a a couple of suggestions. don't tell him anything about your old doc, but if you feel you need to say anything you can just say that you thought it would be helpful yo get a second opinion. I think a lot of docs feel flattered to be asked for an opinon (stroke the beast). I think he will genuinely want to see every test or what ever that you have had in the past. If you want to give him the spreadsheets, you could make it non-threatening by saying "This is a list of tests my friend had, and I was wondering if you felt that any of them would be appropriate for me." That way it comes across as asking his advice rather than suggesting he do something. But when all is said and done, we have to remember that we do not relaly have much control over how someone else acts or reacts and not take it too personally, but just move on. Of course, I have to counsel myself on this all the time, as I get very upset when I am treated badly. It is hard not to take things personally. But some doctor's are just jerks, no matter what we say or do. Best of luck.