Yes, Bobby,
I am a nurturer by nature. I have spent years learning how to nurture myself. That is the part that goes against nature for most nurturers I think.

Tomorrow I am going to the hospital to go see him with another work friend. She is one of those people that goes to visit the sick and honor the dead. I think she is my hospital/funeral buddy at the moment.
(And well this might sound crass, but people at work really do need to know what is going on. They need an update -- both for personal and work related reasons. . . . .we know from today that the hospital on the phone says that he is in ICU and his condition is unchanged.)

Anyway, after that, in the evening, I am going to a Buddhist meeting I think -- I usually end up changing my mind. Sometimes even the buddhists seem too intense for me. I need to rest from stimuli. Still, it might be a good place for me to end up at the end of the day tomorrow.
And they will be supportive in the right ways.

Mari