when I feel intense anger towards my sister or mother, when I pray for them the anger dissipates(sp) I wonder who you damaged you more, your mother or your father by the way.
I get the gut feeling that the man from work has never really tried to help himself. I could be wrong. I keep on thinking of No Exit....Maybe you would feel less frustrated if you focus in on that the ball has been in his court not your court and it is okay to feel sad about him but you can't help him. Does he feed on his "helplessness"? He sounds just as dangerous to others as he is to himself.
I hope you take the day off and see your therapist. It sounds like a good time.
You have made huge progress in recognizing your limitations....beware, you might start having feelings of emptiness since giving seems to have been your vocation in life lol.
Bobby