cheryl...we could talk about Job...or how life isn't fair. There's always someone who has stories to put ours to shame. That really doesn't lessen the effect our own life experiences have on us...it doesn't diminish them...or make them any easier to bare.

I've learned that talking about what has hurt us with people who care, helps tremendously. That's what these forums are all about...getting and giving support.

I think you are too hard on yourself....you own your pain, you own what has happened to you and you are "allowed" to say it hurts!!!!

We are here for you dear lady.