I don't know what state you are in , but I know someone in CA going thru this so looked up some info.
It might give sources or links to other states on some of the links.
http://www.divorcenet.com/states/california/cafaq07
http://www.divorcesource.com/CA/ARTICLES/borg1.html
http://californiadivorce.info/legal....rtoverview.htm