I spoke to the pcp today.. she said that had she not been put on the ventilator on Monday night, she simply would have passed away peacefully but FIL could not direct the docs appropriately so absent knowing what to do, they vented her...
She also told me that she has told my hubby and my FIL straight out when she offered them hospice in October that she was dying and that they need to make arrangements. My hubby told me that he felt the doc was just offering hospice just to get his dad to get more help and to get help seven days a week! What a disconnect there, huh!
At this point, they may have just saved her for a feeding tube and more poor care. It was not what she wanted. Not at all. I am so unhappy. Not that I want her to die... I just want her to be in peace.