Hopefully they talk to him about how he feels? I know I'm pretty open about how I feel guilty for what my pain does to my family. I know rationally I can't control the pain but it still helps to get the feeling out. So hopefully they get which can be hard for a 12 year old boy but to communicate his fears,anger,sadness. My mom always says there is nothing that hurts like watching your child suffer. I wish I could take her pain away. You know when I was at the clinic they had the Ronald Mcdonald house with kids. They had such a spirit about them. My heart really goes to them.