Hi Cindy,

I can't agree with you thought points any more. They are right on. I too come from a "semi-functional disfunctional" family. No, I don't even try to understand them anymore and that includes my elderly parents. Some rifts will never be mended. Many times no one wants to put into the effort to mend them.

Funny, I've always said the a member of our family (me) has no credibility. Kind of like the phrophet in his own village is not respected. Go figure?

As an adult I've learned NOT to share specific information with my family as I know they don't want to accept it, understand it, or even empathize. I can only control my own little world with my wife and kids.

I can't tell you how many times I've told my kids, "if I ever do/don't do, such and such, just slap the H out me and bring me back to reality!"

Just some thoughts. Thanks for bearing with me here.