I just told the kids they will need to start doing their own laundry- and I didn't touch theirs anymore.
- when I was really hurting they did the bath towels too, but now I can do those again.

as far as kids bedrooms - that is their domain I only suggest a clean up once in awhile - but I don't touch it -they keep the doors closed LOL

Now kids are 17 & 20+ so no "toys" except cars, trucks and "projects" but they are outside LOL