Everything us TOSer's like to do TOS intercepts and drains our emotions and increases pain.

A wise ole friend told me, "if you enjoy it, then do it as long as it doesn't create more stress. We have lost our motherhood, housewife, childlike persona, our careers, pleasures, participating in sports, cooking, gardening, art, etc..."

It's unfair to ourselves to take away such a pleasure at a moderation. Whats that we all say. We each have our own tolerance.

We are going to have pain no matter what we do in life 24/7 even reaching for a white vest with a fur collar that catches ones eye once in a life time to try it on. Thats why I dont go shopping for me. It hurts. Have to focus on what I can do with limitations.

I know its hard and by all means I'm the worst at getting frustrated of all the life changes and challenges, for us all.