Is a skill long forgetten in many many adults - so often when one just needs to hear - "dont worry, something will work out" - or "I'm so sorry that happened" - etc.... its not there - instead people seem to have become so self centered they completely lack the ability to respond to others in this manner - which is very healing to the spirit.. I think what used to a perceived gap between men and not understanding (just listening) is not a sexist thing - is universal - and its amazing that someone recognizing the fact that they are lisening to what you are saying and let you know that - period - is invaluable..... (how often have you told someone about a death or similar situation and before you finish the sentence they launch into their own story - when what you need to hear is simply "I'm sorry".) We could reach out to so many others by understanding this need I believe, and help those in pain......