Hi, Barbara,

I checked out your picture. Maybe it was taken during a happy time. You look happy.

My BIL lost his exwife a few years ago.
He was torn up with lots of conflicting emotions. She was bipolar and left him after more than 15 years. He and my sis traveled out of state to go the funeral. I think that being at the funeral and seeing some of her relatives helped my BIL.

You were denied a chance to go to the funeral. And maybe you didn't want to go anyway.
But I think it is good if we find something symbolic to do to mark this change.

Can you think of something that would work for you?
--releasing a flower into a river
--taking a walk and having a talk with yourself about your time with him
--spending some extra time with a decent counselor
--a bereavement group
--doing something by yourself that you used to do together in good times

Then go back home and remind yourself what a wonderful person you are.
Buy yourself a little symbolic gift to mark your new free life.


M.