I think you said your son Melody struggles with addictions. I know from my past that it makes you want to be alone. You are married so to speak to your problems and it pushes out family,friends,etc. I used to want to be alone due to my depression and eating disorder. I feared so much. When I recovered I began wanting to have a full life with friends,family,hobbies.
Kmeb that is funny about the ears. I thought a lot of men though get hair ear when aging.
I do know that when your body is trying to protect areas it can grow hair in places. I may be wrong though.