Sue,
It might be nice to have someone to take care of you. He sounds like a loving caring man. Yes, your children come first. But you learn to love the step-children too. I love the one I raised almost as much as my own. The older one is very dear to me too. It would be nice if you had someone to watch over you and Bob. And I feel like he would watch over Bob also.

Seems like he's been there all along, thru everything.
Just my two cents.
Billye